Spectator chat was discussing yesterday night about how a lot of discussions goes to shit because someone yelled at someone else, and the person ends up being more defensive then apologetic.
Last night I was talking about how a troll was apparently transgender, and I didn’t know this so I assumed that it was just another troll by them to have their icon be transgender. I mentioned how I felt bad after I learned that they were actually transgender. Anyway, after that someone said something along the lines of “I used to wonder if someone was faking it 3 years ago, however I don’t anymore. It’s better to be safe then sorry”, and I agreed with that and said “Yeah, who cares if they are or aren’t”. People then begin to read into my statement more, talking about how they feel like you should be more welcoming to transgender people ect. I wanted to start to hide after that discussion started, because I felt like people were reading too much into my statement when I was referring to the context of “Who cares if someone is or isn’t in a mafia game”.
Anyway, after that someone talked about the theory of how people become more defensive rather then apologetic after being yelled at, which makes both the people have a negative impression of each other. And it’s true, most people get defensive when accused with something. Sometimes this is caused by a misunderstanding between two people, where the first person assumes that they meant this, while the second person is thinking “No, why would I think that? I would never think that?”.