I think the idea that specchats are free to trash people with only a closed group is actively a harmful cultural problem
just do what I do and criticise peopleās play with tasteful memes
people respond to it well and if you communicate correctly they can understand how to improve
I might talk with my friend about it after the game. But i will try to be less harsh. Because I love them too much.
Then why are you saying things about them you wouldnāt feel comfortable eith them reading
Thatās not love thatās just malice
although letās be honest
Iām more of a DVC guy than a spec chat guy
Like
I will tear my friendsā play to shit in DVC
but hiding that from them would make me feel actively awful personally
Perhaps Iām having a N.1-style strong reaction here but I find the idea of being less harsh to someoneās face abhorrent
Iāve run out of likes 5 times in this thread today
Uh
Thats your way then.
But we others will not try to actively hurt our friends if possible
To which I again ask
Why say things that could realistically hurt your friends
If the people youāre friends with are being hurt by it, thatās probably a bad sign
At the end of the day your friends are the people least likely to read into you being harsh
Then donāt say things you think will be hurtful. Learn some self control if it matters that much.
Speak you mind - Empathetic -
Choose which is more important
Youāre starting to sound like my dad lmao
orange thereās something weāve been meaning to tell you
I dont think we still are on topic.
(I mean this personal rampant, not icis comment lul)
oh come on
it was an obvious opportunity for my patented āsentence that looks like itās leading into an adoption talk ends with me proclaiming them to have been spat out of a hole in the ground with the mission to systematically destroy the worldā joke
anyway
this is a thread about subbing in
people in uninformed spec chat arenāt allowed to sub in
Unless they all agree to join as a hydra with altogether too many heads :^)
Look
You could pull up literally hundreds of examples of me trashing someoneās play
But the number of times I have gone after someone personally over years of playing is relatively incredibly small
If youāre concerned about posts youāve made in private falling into that latter camp, maybe try harder to make sure theyāre in the former
And if theyāre in the former, even if theyāre harshly worded, that can be a learning experience, and should be forgiven after the game along with literally every other player and spectator who is doing the exact same thing
pros
- no extra information from having IC reads. theyāre a hydra, dummy!
- funny
- balanced by the fact that people will be mad at uninformed spec chat subbing in and will find any excuse to kill them
- itās a gamer move
cons
- none