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orangeandblack5 · July 9, 2020, 3:57pm

I think the idea that specchats are free to trash people with only a closed group is actively a harmful cultural problem

Icibalus · July 9, 2020, 3:57pm

just do what I do and criticise people’s play with tasteful memes
people respond to it well and if you communicate correctly they can understand how to improve

anon97870008 · July 9, 2020, 3:57pm

I might talk with my friend about it after the game. But i will try to be less harsh. Because I love them too much.

orangeandblack5 · July 9, 2020, 3:58pm

Then why are you saying things about them you wouldn’t feel comfortable eith them reading

That’s not love that’s just malice

Icibalus · July 9, 2020, 3:59pm

although let’s be honest
I’m more of a DVC guy than a spec chat guy

orangeandblack5 · July 9, 2020, 3:59pm

Like

I will tear my friends’ play to shit in DVC

but hiding that from them would make me feel actively awful personally

orangeandblack5 · July 9, 2020, 4:00pm

Perhaps I’m having a N.1-style strong reaction here but I find the idea of being less harsh to someone’s face abhorrent

Moleland · July 9, 2020, 4:00pm

I’ve run out of likes 5 times in this thread today

anon97870008 · July 9, 2020, 4:00pm

Uh
Thats your way then.
But we others will not try to actively hurt our friends if possible

orangeandblack5 · July 9, 2020, 4:01pm

To which I again ask

Why say things that could realistically hurt your friends

If the people you’re friends with are being hurt by it, that’s probably a bad sign

orangeandblack5 · July 9, 2020, 4:01pm

At the end of the day your friends are the people least likely to read into you being harsh

Moleland · July 9, 2020, 4:02pm

Then don’t say things you think will be hurtful. Learn some self control if it matters that much.

Speak you mind - Empathetic -

Choose which is more important

orangeandblack5 · July 9, 2020, 4:11pm

You’re starting to sound like my dad lmao

Icibalus · July 9, 2020, 4:03pm

orange there’s something we’ve been meaning to tell you

anon97870008 · July 9, 2020, 4:04pm

I dont think we still are on topic.
(I mean this personal rampant, not icis comment lul)

Icibalus · July 9, 2020, 4:04pm

oh come on
it was an obvious opportunity for my patented “sentence that looks like it’s leading into an adoption talk ends with me proclaiming them to have been spat out of a hole in the ground with the mission to systematically destroy the world” joke

Icibalus · July 9, 2020, 4:05pm

anyway
this is a thread about subbing in
people in uninformed spec chat aren’t allowed to sub in

Icibalus · July 9, 2020, 4:05pm

Unless they all agree to join as a hydra with altogether too many heads :^)

orangeandblack5 · July 9, 2020, 4:06pm

Look

You could pull up literally hundreds of examples of me trashing someone’s play

But the number of times I have gone after someone personally over years of playing is relatively incredibly small

If you’re concerned about posts you’ve made in private falling into that latter camp, maybe try harder to make sure they’re in the former

And if they’re in the former, even if they’re harshly worded, that can be a learning experience, and should be forgiven after the game along with literally every other player and spectator who is doing the exact same thing

Icibalus · July 9, 2020, 4:07pm

pros

no extra information from having IC reads. they’re a hydra, dummy!
funny
balanced by the fact that people will be mad at uninformed spec chat subbing in and will find any excuse to kill them
it’s a gamer move

cons

none