to be honest? It’s pretty easy to get some friends in tol. Just play some matches together, then you notice that you like the style of the other person, and you’ll queue up way more often together. Then you might start to talk with them over discord too
I very rarely ever stress and I find FM fun so I usually play games I’m interested in. If I’m busy and definitely can’t make time for it I don’t join. For me it’s mostly whether I think I’ll find the game fun or not, not whether it’ll stress me out or not.
I’m probably in the minority with this though so yeah
I’m typing up a longer post, but before this thread moves on: Tele and I have been close friends since well before either of us became guides. (Tele if you’re reading this I love you <3)
That’s because I have nothing in common with the people here. I like talking about actual gameplay, I hate memes, and I don’t like spammers or other kinds of rulebreakers 
But at the same time, I also have friends who hardly ever play ToL, whom I met through the forums
My perception is that people who play ToL together rarely talk about other stuff in DM’s. I may be wrong about this but I really just don’t think standard members of the ToL community feel comfortable talking with each other about other things and even IRL things in the way that many members of this community are comfortable talking with each other outside of matches.
@Arete This is fair and it’s possible I didn’t try to make friendships with people I knew through ToL like I have here. About 85% of my ToL friendslist has not played the game in many months and I’ll likely never be able to communicate with any of them ever again, which saddens me.
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Mods love rule breakers, I would know as I have made the council of idiots and mods loved it
Yeah… why should I talk about something else than ToL with other tol players? I’m confused. Off-topic is a muted channel for me
One of the most fun was when the whole FOL community played TOL together and we literally executed everyday and Celeste claimed prince as mastermind and won the game
this is a fair point @anon97870008
There are many instances where I could have reached out to people I regularly queued with in ToL via DM, both in the distant past and now. I never did and reflecting on that I really regret that fact.
So you played ToL as if it was FoL basically
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So this isn’t a perfect analogy, but I just thought of it and I do actually think it’s getting at something relevant…
…when I was in elementary school, I spent several years doing gymnastics, and for reasons that aren’t relevant to this analogy I was absolutely miserable to the point that after one practice I noticed that I wasn’t going home in tears and considered this an unusually good outcome. To this day, there’s a part of me that feels sad when I see a nine-year-old running around in a ‘Localarea gymnastics’ T-shirt, or hear them talk about how they’re getting ready for a gymnastics competition.
And that doesn’t mean they’re wrong to like gymnastics, or that because certain people on my team went out of their way to make me miserable that I should assume all gymnasts are the same. And – I don’t think I’ll ever believe on an emotional level that ‘doing gymnastics’ and ‘not being miserable’ are compatible, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t.
In this analogy gymnastics is FM, and I’m … Priestess, but also anyone else who sees themself in the experiences she’s describing? And … the fact that I’ve had mostly positive experiences with the forum doesn’t negate the fact that other people have had negative ones, nor take away the pain they experienced, but at the same time the fact that they’ve had negative experiences doesn’t, nor should it, mean that some people can’t have positive ones.
I don’t know if that makes sense in places that aren’t my head but
I don’t believe it is possible to develop the kind of friendships that go really deep like some of the ones I have here by talking only about the activity that brought you together.
If I talked only about forum mafia with players here, I don’t think my connections here would go any deeper than players I know in ToL.
It’s precisely because we talk about other things so often out of matches that our bonds here go so deep, I feel.
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I’ve had shit experience after shit experience on this forum
I don’t let that get to me because attaching all of my self worth to something I’ll eventually pass by is pointless
The best I can do is have fun with it while it lasts
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But i mean if you think you know of any relationships between two standard ToL players that go really deep, please refer me to them Priestess. I don’t think it’s possible but I would be interested in seeing.